For quite some time now, my perspective has been off the radar. I have not been allowing myself to just BE – Just BE in the PRESENT – Just BE in the NOW – Just BE with the world around me – Just BEING. Do you know what starts to happen when you don’t spend time alone and just BE? Anxiety. It starts slowly and gradually affects your day to day. Anxiety makes you question yourself and your ability to BE. The greatest gift we can give ourselves is to love ourselves with all of our faults and imperfections. We need to appreciate the beauty in us and around us. The world we live in today doesn’t offer a lot of peace and balance or harmony. We have to find it and we have to create it. We have to believe in ourselves.

Change is my biggest enemy and my greatest challenge. Change has the power to create massive anxiety and chaos. Change is new. Change is a friend moving away. Change is starting a new job. Change is traveling. Change is doing something you don’t normally do. Change is not believing you can do it. Change is looking backwards. Change is afraid to look forward. Change is gravity. Change is the scale. Change is the unknown.

So how do you handle change ? One word – PERSPECTIVE. One simple thought, one simple word can change you for the better.  Did you notice that the word BE is part of the word BETTER?  You can BE – Better!  PERSPECTIVE. This one word can shift your attitude from sad to happy, from anxious to calm, from mad to forgiving, from denial to accepting, from holding on to letting go. We don’t have to be perfect. We don’t have to hold onto every hurt, every worry, every wound.  Holding onto those things we see in the rear view don’t help us – they actually hold us back from BEING.  We don’t have to look like a Sports Illustrated swim suit model. Social media and TV and the internet make us believe we aren’t good enough. BUT by changing your perspective, You are ENOUGH and you can BE anything! You can BE. You have the power to change your perspective. You have the power to look forward and not backward. You have the power to conquer the fear of change. You have the power to believe in yourself and embrace all of your curves (big and small). You have the power (no one else) to look into that mirror and tell yourself – you are OK. It’s our own Messy Journeys – the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Change has caused my curves to expand. The extra glass of wine has caused my curves to expand. Change has affected my waistline and my perspective. Change has caused me to get stuck in the past, stuck in the unknown, stuck in fear over faith. Change has had me stuck (like quick sand)  due to the loss of father and all of the baggage that went along with it.  But we all (even me) have the power to change our perspective. We can turn the dark clouds into sunshine. We can SHINE bright and BE and move FORWARD. Faith over Fear! Courage over Comfort! BE IN THE PRESENT! We can love and be loved – but we all have to love ourselves first! We have to be there for ourselves. If we aren’t practicing the pause and spending time in the NOW and accepting the uncomfortable – we will stay stuck.

To answer the question – Why is the front windshield so much bigger than the rear view mirror? The front windshield of your car represents the present and the future and all of the wonderful and amazing possibilities and opportunities ahead of us. The rear view mirror represents the past and what’s behind us. There’s a reason the rear view mirror is so much smaller – the past is so much smaller than the GREAT future ahead of you.

This blog post is dedicated to the kind individual who found peace and solace in reading my posts. Who found comfort in knowing she wasn’t alone. If I can help one person through my messy journey, then it’s all worth it. Thank you for helping me to write again and start to BE again! Let’s all keep the rear view mirror small and the look forward through the front wind shield and embrace the change.